Take turns with a friend asking twenty questions, keeping in mind that the purpose for doing so is to get to know each other more fully. Answer the questions briefly, spontaneously, and honestly. Afterwards, take some time to reflect on the experience together.

When you meet with friends, ask many questions, not just one or two polite ones. Be curious. Ask follow-up questions to deepen your understanding of how other people view themselves and the world. See what you can learn. Talk less and listen more. Watch screens less and connect with humans more. These simple questions work well: Why? Why not? How did you feel about that? What are you feeling? How might you achieve that goal? Can you tell me more? What’s been on your mind lately? It’s easy to ask those questions, so why not ask them and listen carefully to the answers? Improve your friendships by becoming a better listener.

Please comment on the book as a whole here. The Twelve Steps for Growing Deep Community are posted separately. Please comment on them there.